Everyone in the hotwife/cuckold scene are there to live out their own fantasies. This does not mean that you should treat anyone with less respect than you expect them to show you.
Always reply to messages sent to you. A polite "No thank-you" is better than no response at all.
If you are rejected, move on. Do not get upset or question why you have not been accepted as a playmate. Everyone has the right to say No to anyone at anytime.
Before meeting define what is expected by each person. The hotwife should set out what she expects from her new lover before the meeting. The lover should be prepared to perform to her rules.
If you agree to meet, turn up. People in the adult lifestyles talk to each other. No-shows are rarely given a second chance. If you are not going to be able to make the date, give the other person a call.
If you are meeting the cuckold, treat him with respect, unless demeaning him is part of an agreed scenario. If you treat the cuckold badly, he may call a stop to the meeting, as he may think you will treat his hotwife badly too.
Nothing turns a person off faster and more effectively than an unclean body or un-fresh breath. Even if you shower and perfume yourself before you leave home, it is always a good idea to freshen up again when you arrive at your destination.
Only Do What is Fun for You. Do not allow yourself to become sexually involved with anybody that you are not interested in. There is no reason to involve yourself in a scene that you are not comfortable with. You are in the lifestyle to enjoy yourself, so only do what you want, when you want and with whom you want.
Alcohol & Drugs: Most of us do not use drugs, although some of us drink socially. At times, a few drinks are nice to help you "relax". Over indulging may hamper your physical abilities, as well as offend or turn other people off to you. If you have to over indulge in order to participate in swinging, you are involved in the wrong lifestyle.
Call to say Thank-You: Most people only use the telephone if they are going to go somewhere. Lost seems to the social ambience of a 'Thank You Note' or phone call to someone whose hospitality you enjoyed. It means a lot to most people, and they will surely remember you when planning their next event. Don't you like to be thanked?
Enjoy Yourself: Most important, have a good time, act out your fantasies, explore your own sexuality and enjoy everything this lifestyle has to offer with enthusiasm, laughter and a positive attitude.